Here is a wonderful list of getting YOU back on the Mastering Self- Love track. Don’t despair if you have fallen off your path by not putting yourself first by loving and accepting all of you. Here are some great tips which will help you in so many ways.
1. Create a self-love ritual.
Turn off the TV and unplug from social media for a half hour and get centred while self-pampering. My favourite way to do this is to light some incense and body brush my entire body then moisturize my skin with intention. As I massage my feet I thank them for getting me to where I need to go; as I moisturize my hands I love them for all their hard work and the introductions they've helped me with throughout my life. I stop taking my body and my life for granted and relish how blessed I am while showering myself with gratitude.
2. Build a precious community.
As much as we would like to think we can, we can’t do everything ourselves. You need the support and love from people around you to stay motivated and on track. Positive energy is contagious, so whether you’re building a network or planning to go to a fun event, it’s always important to have a community you value around you regularly. Get clear on who is in your inner circle. Remember… people come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime.
3. Make a “What’s Working for Me" list.
You always hear that to love someone else you must first learn to love yourself. But In order to really love yourself sometimes you have to recognize all the love you have around you. One of the practices I do when I’m feeling down is to go within and acknowledge what's really working, then make a “What’s Working for Me” list. Once you see it on paper and accept all of the positivity in your life, it will make it that much easier to love yourself.
4. Know that your body is a loving vessel.
Treating your body like a loving vessel will not only boost your self-love, but also your energy. Be intentional about what you put into your body, not only because you want to look good but because you want to feel good. Feeding your body nutrient-rich foods will have you oozing love out of every pore. Detox, cleanse, get rid of those amalgam fillings, juice, do yoga, drink lots of water, reduce inflammation in your body by eating cleanly, avoid processed foods and any labels on food packaging that has lots of numbers on it!
5. Clean out your closet.
This may be more therapeutic than you initially think. Cleaning out your closet will help you not only clean your room up a bit, but will positively affect your mind. Getting rid of old things will make room for new things to come in to your life! Cleansing your mind can sometimes work in the form of letting go of clothes, shoes, jewellery, etc. that remind you of a certain time in your life that links to a negative vibration. Don’t chase what’s already happened; love yourself enough to know the best is yet to come. If you have trouble in the wardrobe area, only hold onto those special pieces that you cherish and make you felt really special when you think about how you felt when you last wore it!
6. Stop comparing yourself to others.
You are not supposed to be like anyone else. You are you. You are the only one who can be you. Your perspectives, gifts and values are exclusively yours. You have your very own unique expressions, so revel in it! Being in a pattern of compare and despair only makes you focus on the negative, when there's SO much to be grateful for. If you want something to measure yourself by, compare how you were yesterday to how you are today and be kind.
7. Explore your spirituality.
Spirituality does not mean any particular practice. It is a certain way of being. This is like a garden in your house. If the soil, sunlight or stem of a plant is in a certain way, it won’t yield flowers, you have to do something. You have to take care of those things. So if you cultivate your body, mind, emotions and energies to a certain level of awareness, something else blossoms within you – and that is what spirituality is. Believing in something opens up your soul to the beauty of belief and trust. It will build your intuition and help you make decisions based on your gut. When you explore your spirituality it takes you on a very personal journey to learning things about yourself and those thoughts, feelings, passions and raw emotions will make you appreciate yourself for being authentically you.
8. Do something you’re good at.
If this isn’t the ultimate self-esteem booster, I don’t know what is! Self-esteem and self-love often go hand in hand, and participating in a hobby or a craft you're good at will not only boost your endorphins, but will bring out the best version of you. If you love to dance, then dance. If you love to cook, then cook! If you love doing mosaics or cross stitch, then get creative. Find something you are passionate about.
9. The mindful practice of gratitude.
Think of a place that makes it simple to just be. That means being able to sit quietly and embrace the here and now. Not thinking about what's due at work or what bills need to be paid, you owe this happy place to yourself. Self-love is all about connecting with yourself, and one of the easiest ways to do this is simply focus on your breath. Every time your mind wanders off, don’t critique yourself, just gently bring yourself back to your breath. Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never ever have enough.
10. Build your letting go muscle.
Sometimes, we are constantly holding on to things in our past and it can tend to weigh heavy on our souls and even give us low self-esteem. The more blocks we clear, the more we can really live big in the area of self-love. Although we may do this as a way to protect ourselves from hurting, it’s really only holding us back from moving forward to reaching optimal self-acceptance and loving who we are. This is where coaching and counselling can really make a difference.
And remember knowledge is power – so read! There are many audios you can download and also second hand book shops which often have a huge variety of personal growth books for you to collect and read at your leisure.